Hey everyone. I introduced this topic because it is a common problem that all married women deal with.
Well, I’m not married yet but I have seen what it is like to have a broken marriage. Marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman who love each other, to live in peace and harmony, in both good times and bad times. And what happens when this love fades? They’ll just be two people living under the same roof.
There are so many things that ruin marriages. Money, for example is one of them. There’s a family I know (I’m not naming names) with this problem, amongst others.
Mr B lost his job suddenly due to fraudulent activities at his work place. The sudden realization that they now had to struggle to survive hit him like a ton of bricks and he instantly became cold to his wife and kids. He had a very nasty temper and found fault in almost everything. He often drowns his sorrows with alcohol. Typical men behavior. Instead of thinking of the next step to take, he wallows in self pity. Leaving the burden for his wife to bear.
Mrs B is struggling to feed her family,take care of the kids, take care of the home and deal with her husband’s tantrums. There were times when she wanted to give up, and she almost did. But she thought of her kids. What would their lives become without her? How would they cope? Especially since they’re still so young. And that gave her the strength and motivation to keep her home and endure the abuses of her husband.
She struggles daily and she’s currently struggling to find a decent job.
What do you think of such women? Do you think it’s fair on her? Of course it isn’t, but that’s life for us, when it comes knocking on our did we have to be prepared to face it.
Another cause is Love. Of course, it’s a major ingredient in a successful marriage. I mean why would they get married in the first place if they don’t love each other. And still,there are people who get married even though they don’t love each other. There are cases of arranged marriages all over the world. It started from our ancestors and still goes on today. But few people practice that nowadays. Everyone is entitled to get married to whomever he so wishes.
Without love, a relationship will not be strong let alone marriage. Love brings peace, understanding, tolerance, honesty, and commitment. All which Is needed in a good relationship. When married couples don’t love each other like they’re supposed to, it has adverse effects on the couple and the children. Most especially the children are always caught in the middle of the conflict between both spouses and it affects them negatively. The parents are giving a bad example to their kids, depriving them of a happy home, depriving them of their happiness. And if eventually,the spouses get divorced, the family will be divided, some kids might want to stay with the father and not the mother and vice versa. They will grow up without the love of both parents and in some cases misbehave and become immoral due to lack of parental control.
The woman becomes a single parent and has to take care of so many responsibilities.
There are so many other ways in which a marriage can be destroyed. The only solution is for us Women to be strong and prevent our homes from falling to ruins.
Please comment on this topic and bring up more topics to discuss about concerning all women.
I hope you’ve gained something from this post and I hope to get feedback on this topic. You can also suggest solutions to most marital problems.
Please share your stories and experiences, be heard don’t hide. Others can also learn from your experiences.